How long have you been together?
Two years. And a couple of weeks.
How long did you know each other before you started dating?
We sent each other emails for two weeks before our first date. We saw each other three times during the first week of our first date.
Who asked out whom?
She wouldn't come right out and ask, so I had to tentatively propose meeting.
How old are each of you?
She's 33 and I'm ten years older. And a few weeks.
Did you go to the same school?
No. We grew up in different parts of the state, and went to college different places in the same part of the state (me attending ten years earlier.) But I did get my second teaching credential at the place she went to college.
Who is the smartest?
I think she is. (Hey, she had better test scores than I did.) But she insists I am. I think I have a broader (but not necessarily more in depth) knowledge than she does, but then I'm interested in more areas, and have had ten more years of reading on me. She knows more about plants and post-deconstructionist theorists. And has a better memory, except for locating things around the house and what day of the week it is.
Who is the most sensitive?
I probably am. BUt that's probably because I've not been so insulated, or safe as she has been. I'm sometimes jealous of her ability to be insensitive in some areas.
Where do you eat out most as a couple?
A rather tacky little small town multi-Asian food place, run by Hmong people. I usually eat Thai or Vietnamese food; she usually eats psudo-Chinese orange chicken. The egg rolls are very Hmong, though.
Where is the furthest you two have traveled together as a couple?
Cayucos (about a six-hour drive south).
Who has the craziest exes?
I think hers have been more inherently crazy (except for one of mine, from my senior year in college) but mine have shown more long-term damage.
Who does the cooking?
Me. She helps with chopping garlic, and sometimes potatoes. And she'll make (frozen) pizza, when I'm tired or have to be home late. I love cooking for her and trying to find dishes she'll like, and even love, but she has little food memory, and tend to think in terms only of edible or not.
Who is more social?
Me, but only because a little sociable is more than not at all.
Who is the neat-freak?
Neither of us, really, but the mess bothers me more.
Who is the most stubborn?
She is. I tend to think of myself as somewhat stubborn, especially as a knee-jerk reaction to someone saying, "you must" or even "you should" but I'm a rank amateur compared to her.
Who hogs the bed?
She does. And so do the dogs.
Who wakes up earlier?
I do on weekdays, but she does on weekends and holidays.
Where was your first date?
The California State Fair.
Who has the bigger family?
I tend to think of myself as having the bigger family, as I have more siblings, and am personally ( and in age) closer to my uncles and aunts than she is, but we see her family a lot more.
How do you spend the holidays?
We usually have dinner with her parents.
How long did it take to get serious?
We were attracted from the start, but I think it took me more than a few hours to decide it was serious. But that could be because I was more wary of seriousness at the time.
Who does/did the laundry?
Lately, she does. In the past, I did more. I've been so glad that she's been dealing with it lately that I'm not bitching (too much) about things being folded differently than I might prefer, on on occasion my shirts being hung up inside out or with a sleeve stuck in. And sometimes my chinos being folded not on the crease, while my jeans are (but not a perfect crease) and the reverse. Hey, it's nice not to have to deal with laundry.
Who's better with the computer?
She is. She likes it better. I'm old and a Pakled. I just want it to go.
Who drives when you are together?
I do, most of the time. Always when we're in my truck because she doesn't drive stick (and hasn't much wanted to learn.) But she does more than with anyone else I've been with. I do better when I read a book when she's driving because she doesn't much want to talk, and I don't want to complain when I'm not having to drive. And I don't always want to be the driver.
So.... some of my answers don't quite match hers precisely. But we don't want to be the same person, and it's good that we don't have to perceive everything in the same way. I think we agree on the important stuff. And she's awfully wonderful.
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